I also wanted to add, I told both my girls separately. They both knew I've wanted this since the beginning but I told them about this 3 yrs ago. After I initially told them, I reassured them, we would be respectful to each other and they would still see their father. I explained none of this was their fault and they can still love us the same way and we'll always love them.

The same day he said spoke to the lawyer, I told both girls separately - my oldest seemed relieved but was sensitive to be respectful of my emotions of some sadness mixed with cautious relief...and she gave me a hug - she's wise old soul. My youngest was also not upset and even said "I'm kind of happy because if you're happier, then I be happy too" - that broke my heart and tells me this really is affecting them. At least they know the truth mostly, so they don't have to wonder or worry what the heck is making me sad or why are their parents so cold and awkward. All she wanted to know was, if we're moving and could she stay in the same school - she loves her school and friends. She was also worried about our dog Bella and would we keep her no matter what. I told her Bella was for sure staying with us no matter what. I never want to make them feel they have to choose parents or think its their fault in any way.