Thanks Perna and AAAAA. I will take yours and everyone else advice and insist on having my own lawyer. AAAAA - TBH I don't think his intentions are fairness, otherwise he would have been a man and divorced me after I gave him a year to sort it all out, almost 6 yrs ago. I think he's motivated by saving money and doesn't want a big court fight because this would surely doom him. He would even make up bold faced lies so you're right...I do have to pay attention to his track record - he doesn't have high morals or compassion for me. He's more concerned about himself - not spending to much if he really is going to do this and not letting everyone know about him being an abuser and bigamist.

When this first happened 6 yrs ago and I was itching to get a divorce right away he indirectly threatened me. He said one morning "I had this scary dream that you would kill the kids" and then he reminded me he has connections. He was implying indirectly, that he's capable of making up a bold faced lie to take my girls away from me. This is why I've gone on this long and stayed like a prisoner basically. All of you know how I protect and love my girls and I couldn't hurt another living person or animal. He has lied about many things in the time I've known him and has no problem with lying.