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Hi ~ Shezbut gave you some good advice. I went thru the same thing with my son. When he was 18, we discovered that he was drinking, and quite heavily. We sat him down and told him that this was NOT acceptable while he was living in our home. That if he was to KEEP living in the home, he had to follow house rules. That meant NO drinking!!! Of course he agreed to it because he didn't have any place else to go. LOL
But he didn't stick to the agreement -- he kept drinking. And he had been told the consequences -- so we told him he had to leave. He never thought we would follow thru with it, but we did. I guess it's called "tough love." There is a history of alcoholism in both sides of the family, and my son was on his way. So we made him leave -- he found places to lay his head, and I worried about him constantly -- but he never hit "his bottom."
He is 41 years old now, and he's still drinking heavily. So what we did didn't seem to work. We let him know how much we loved him, but it didn't seem to make any difference.
I hope you can make your son understand the consequences of drinking & smoking. He could get arrested, he could cause an accident and injure someone else or himself, there are all sorts of things that can happen as a result of his actions. I wish you the very best. In the end, they make the final decision -- we can make them "behave." God bless & my prayers are with you. Hugs, Lee
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