Thank you for your kind words, no I don't have a job right now. The husband and I agreed it would be best for me to stay home with the kids until they are in school. I feel so stuck, and quite honestly, emotionless about all of this. I'm just not sure what to do. I don't want to uproot, and move, but he obviously isn't moving anywhere, and he wants us to live to together and be separated. I don't think so. If he wants a sep. then that's what we will do, the real way. It seems like he just wants to do whatever he wants and not have to answer to anyone but himself, yet it seems like he still wants someone to take care of him.