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Sep 21, 2011, 12:03 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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I must say that the timing sucks! Here you finally get a diagnosis, and he wants to split! You would think that he would be more understanding & compassionate. But I guess he's just a man. 
I wouldn't worry too much about the kids --- why keep them with their father when he doesn't pay any attention to them anyway? Kids are happy in a happy home, and your home isn't happy right now. Perhaps after you've separated, the kids will feel relieved and happier -- and so will YOU. There won't be the stress anymore -- you won't be constantly picked on. Kids are resilient -- they'll be okay as long as you're intune to their needs.
It's too bad he doesn't remember the vows he took when you got married. I wonder how he'd feel if you told him you wanted out if he became ill or disabled. I'm sure it would be a different story then.
I wish you the very best of luck -- I have a feeling that you'll be just fine.  You NEED to get your self-esteem back -- he's beaten you down. Once he's gone, I think your household will be much more pleasant -- and that will help you emotionally. Take care & God bless. Hugs, Lee
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