This does not sound like a safe situation to me. I would discontinue seeing this T as soon as possible, and find someone else. I agree that your boundaries may have been violated in the past, because it do not seem like they are very good now, because this T is really overstepping them. Offering you a ride home, for example, and telling you he feels sorry for your husband. Mentioning church, implying you would be a partner/ally, while he's writing prescriptions? I am having a panic attack FOR you!