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Sep 21, 2011, 10:59 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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I'm so sorry this happened. I can understand how you feel -- I would feel "betrayed" also -- especially since he continued doing it when he said he wouldn't.
Obviously, you two don't communicate very well. If you did, you probably would have known of these "issues" that he has, or this "fetish." You should be able to talk this out, like adults. Of course you're hurt -- but I think you're both afraid to really get into it, and see how to handle this issue.
It seems to me that couples counseling would be a good idea. It would help you learn to communicate better -- plus it wouldn't hurt if he had some sessions by himself with a counselor. There may be some hidden issues that he has that is causing this kind of behavior. Why not give counseling a try? Do you think he'd go willingly? If he wants to save this relationship, he SHOULD want to go. If things aren't settled, you're going to continue to resent his behavior, and you can't have a good marriage with resentment between you.
Best of luck & God bless. I hope things work out. Hugs, Lee 
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