Hi, thanks everyone for your replies, I feel that you're right. Perhaps I just didn't want to think this way about him because we had such an instant connection and it's the first time I've ever had to see a psychiatrist, so wasn't really sure of the protocol. I just thought he was more laid back about certain things and that I was being over sensitive, or that pehaps he was just 'testing' me.

Elli-Beth - my gut instinct was telling me to be on guard. There has been a definite blurring of boundaries somewhere here. Like for instance with the lifts, he said it makes sense that he gives me a lift (he offered me a lift after our second session) because he drives home in the same direction as me. But then he would reschedule me for the last patient some weeks, rather than keeping my appointment at a regular weekly time, although he has stopped doing this now. It was too difficult for me to switch from therapy mode, to just talking about general chit chat en-route home when I was still processing the heavy stuff from our session.

With the church thing, he hasn't actually asked me directly, but mentions it all the time, even going so far as to tell me when they were having an open day and specifics such as what time etc. The group he wanted to set up was also going to be at his church. Initially it was going to be for therapy as I said above, but then he changed it to being about something entirely different, more of a social thing (or a 'learning resource' as he put it) and that there would only be three of us in the group to start with, because he knows that I have anxiety about group situations.

Part of me thinks that I'm just being super sensitive, and that he's bending over backwards and going out on a limb for me and that now he's changed tack because he's frustrated with me for passing up these opportunites (church, group...). I don't know. If he had come right out and directly asked me to go to his church, rather than just mentioning specifics and dropping massive hints, I could have dealt with that, but I can't handle ambiguity and became afraid to say "do you want me to come to your church?" in case he said "no!" But he would text me about his group idea and say "waht do you think?" He mentioned in our last session that I don't listen. I do, and I think he means it's got to come from me, not him, I'm just so confused and don't know what to say/think/do.

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, I really appreciate it.