Hi Lydia...

Please forgive me if I don't understand...I'm trying really hard...
You seem to communicate really well what the problem is in terms of not being able to communicate and use a great image of the broken chain.

So you CAN communicate very well..at least in written form...(I'm much better at writing as well.)

But everyone seems to be asking you "How do you want me to help you?" which is a whole another 3 steps down in the thinking process..

So, let's try going back in the reasoning and write down first..
What is the basic problem...what hurts..what is the need...then STOP..
(Don't think about what they are going to do or any solution stuff...just...what do YOU NEED...)
That's all.

something like maybe:...I am afraid, I need patience, I need love, I need help with anxiety, I need help with frustrated feeling about this...or that issue.., I need help solving this specific problem, I need help communicating feelings or emotions, I need a list of emotions to pick from, I need writing assignments or specific questions to answer to help me communicate, I need very specific topics to discuss, I need you to break things down into little pieces for me to discuss one at a time...I don't know how to talk about this subject or that..I want (??) Whatever!!

THEN... Take the list and tell them...NOW please help me brain storm some ways to get my need met and help me write the ways down and look at which ones I like that might work best for ME. Only do ONE need at a time.

Something in my gut tells me that you are racing ahead with each problem through possible solutions to possible outcomes and problems with the outcomes, and discounting them or putting them aside and not seeing things. And then getting frustrated and feeling like there are no real answers and too many possibilities. Then it winds around and gets confused and by then you are so upset that it has all become a jumble and you don't know what to say at all...but they keep Asking and you are even more frustrated.... and then it becomes personal because you feel their hurt and frustration and is mixed up with the relationships...... and it is out of control.

This is just an idea..just a little theory of what might be going on...I've seen it before...it's no big deal and easily worked out....I help my friend by putting it down on paper in certain ways and directing his thinking back to the original question and not letting him go off on tangents and possibilities... It just is a thinking/conceptualizing problem, and we use tools to help...mostly a paper and pen or some diagrams.

If I'm wrong...throw this post AWAY and ignore it. I just hoped this might help a little maybe..if I understood...

Best wishes in your healing and getting what you need from the people who obviously love and care about you very much indeed.

Safe hugs!!

Wysteria Blue