Thank you to sunrise and eskielover for your detailed post and caring. As far as finances go - he does all banking by computer, keeps business accounts separate from personal and has more than one personal account. I know he lives month to month, so not much is there. My name is solely on the business which isn't advantageous if I was a spiteful woman. His car needs repair and he can't afford to fix it. I finally found a law firm which only does family law and offer various types of divorces including collaborative ones.

I'm weak emotionally ATM but I'm trying to buck myself up. When I feel stronger, I'll make an appointment with them. I'll at least call them to see if they offer a free initial consultation today. I don't have a job - I made the mistake of not finishing my University education. Got used to being a stay at home mother and this was convenient for him since it works out well with his control problem. Had my kids late so I'm 50 now and its hard to think I need to start working this late in life. I did work when I was younger but nothing more than retail type work.