To MsMS, I can relate to you as I am a mirror image of your husband. I am struggling with severe depression and anxiety and have become totally immobilized. My life is being systematically thrown away by myself.

I have come to the realization that medication IS the only route right now. I take it reluctantly. I am a Registered Nurse, barely capable of anything anymore. MEDICATION is the answer for now. Therapy can follow.

He must realize that he is possibly doing irreversible damage to his life and mind by not taking it. Even if he is not verbalizing it, I would bet he has strong feelings of self harm. Men don't verbalize it .I too would welcome a divorce to get away from all responsibility and live in isolation. Isolation will just further feelings of self harm. People have less reason to live if in isolation and overcome with their lives.

This has happened to me ten years ago and it took close to two years to slowly but surely come back. I know I can not handle the simplest of responsibilities right now---I wish someone would take them from me. It sounds like he feels the same.

Can family step forward and somehow help?
Can you get him to a depression support group---in person? He will realize he is not alone--they will drive home the medication issue. There are men there who have come back from where depression leads .Again---I see medication as the needed first step. After that he can take a small step each day to regain control of his life.

Let your husband read my post----maybe I could reach him. I will look for a response from you. I would gladly communicate with him.