I was going to post something on this the other day. I know it has to be possible. Now that I'm on medications and have my thoughts straight I realize that despite my love for this person the relationship is not healthy. He came into my life at a very vulnerable point in my life and made me feel amazing, all my problems went away and I was cured- Just like medication or a drug. I was/am addicted to the way he made me feel. It felt so good. It has taken me years and a 2 hr distance between us to lessen the bond. I finally told him the other night, after he told me he was always here for me, that it was not healthy for me to rely on him and basically cut him off. It was hard to do but so freeing at the same time. I felt like a weight had been lifted off. I finally realized that after I would not be with him my pain was so much worse than before. It got worse everytime, I had to cut it off. He has been one of my best friends for 16 years. So sad. But I need to do what's best for me. Sorry for venting but know you are not alone