(((Hugs to you gasping)))

Speaking from my own experience...
Your hub is trying to make a huge change in his life. It isn't comfortable for him. It isn't comfortable for you. It isn't the pattern that the two of you were used to in your lives.

Please try to understand that he won't always be stable as he works towards sobriety. I went through this first-hand with my hub and Al-Anon was a life-saver as well as a marriage saver for us.

While we might wish it was so, there is no "instant" fix. This is a huge change to the routine of your lives. Everyone will now need to learn new ways to live and interact with each other.

There is hope that you will have a wonderful marriage if you are also willing to work through steps to get there. Al-Anon will give you those steps as well as a circle of people who have or are walking in the same shoes.

I wish you the very best!