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Originally Posted by treehouse
I think that it can be very powerful to imagine our children in the same situations we were in, and to imagine our reaction, to imagine if we would "blame" them or find something wrong with them...and then to apply the way we would feel towards our children to our younger selves. Because, truly, we deserve the same love and concern that we would give to them.
I'm glad you brought this up, Sunny. I am having a VERY hard time with my 7/8/9 year old self right now. I can't accept her, love her, even LIKE her. You reminded me of what happened with my littlest self, and that gives me a little bit of direction.
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Treehouse, I'm glad you are finding some direction with that little girl.
Thanks for responding to this part of what I wrote, as yes, I think it is a powerful approach! Maybe it is one I can lean on if I find myself faltering. It can take a little of this and a little of that to help us move forward, or at least
move. Kind of like making a soup from scratch. What will help today, what won't help, what can we try? I think I am finding some empathy for that younger self of mine but there are still other feelings too that aren't quite so forgiving.
I am coming up for another T appt next week, and I am eager to work on this more. Hopefully, I will be able to. I can often get sidetracked, even when it is work I want to do. I think I don't like T to see that I am
eager to work on something.
I don't know why.