The process that you got caught up in, but by the best of my understanding DID NOT CREATE, is called triangulation. IMO your T started it ever so slightly by calling the ice queen. I believe he had the best of intentions... wanting to make sure, given your previous experiences, that this road would be an easier one. The ice queen however SERIOUSLY triangulated, mind reading your T's intentions, talking for him, interpreting for him and making crap up. Triangulation, according to systems theory, is a VERY normal thing to do... a diad, or two person relationship is very intense and unstable... this then causes a drive to pull another member in (have you seen the popularity of our psychotherapy forum, those in psychotherapy and the number of T threads in other forums???? and YES, I am just as guilty as then next) Anywho... I digress... Our motives and outcomes in pulling in additional people to relieve the intensity and improve stability can and often go awry... intentionally or not. IMO ice queen went awry because she has such a narrow focus, and is a tad on the egotistical side... as in her ego is as big as TX... YEP, I am triangulating here... just FYI!

Anyway... ice queen, rather than dealing just with you, as she should have IMO, she made a triangle between you and your T. THIS created the instability between you and T. She knew he was out of the office and you could not verify anything she said he had discussed with her.... OK, I am going to run off to triangle land again... IMO this is a really good way to make anyone, borderline or not FEEL crazy and, in turn get her more damn clients by creating a dramatic crisis. I do believe the dynamics she created fall into the label of "crazy making".

K, dats just my little opinionated self... Next...