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How do you know that they know what you perceive in them?
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my intuitiveness is a good start for me. i don't know why it's so exact but it is. their response lets me know if i am perceiving them correctly or on the right track.
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Is there any way of KNOWING, objectively, that one's efforts to "walk in another's shoes" are correct?
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i can be empathetic even if i haven't walked in their shoes and respect the feelings or perception they have even if i disagree. if i'm not understanding their feelings i find ppl let me know. i'm comfortable making suggestions if they approach me first about their feelings. often times i can relate from my own experiences. other times i use the coping skills i have learned to suggest to them. i find good communication with them and my listening to them really helps.
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How do T's do this, or try to do this, with their clients? Is this a skill they are taught in T-school? Are all T's equally adept in doing this? Can you still have a successful career as a practicing T despite being unable to do this?
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to the second question, i believe both, some of the skills are acquired at school but the better T has more ability in
applying the skills or are simply smarter at what they do. some T's are not adept using or applying these skills cause they lack the ability, imo. many T's have successful practices but not because they are good. many clients are not knowledgeable enough to spot the ineffective T. so they keep going to appts. yet get nowhere.
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Can you flunk out of T-school because this task is beyond you?
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i'm not sure re flunking out. however one can apply on paper at school but not know how to apply it in real life. that's why there are some ineffective T's out there. their clients make no headway because of this.
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Aren't our efforts, however successful they may be, always falling short of the extent of knowledge implied? To what extent, if any, do we all really live our lives in solitude?
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well i don't feel there's meter to determine this. we do the best we can do. for me i don't feel i'm falling short. no one can attain perfection. maybe i'm more of an egoist than i realize.
and this is just me-i don't feel i really live my life in solitude. i feel i'm in the mainstream of life to the extent i want to be.
i hope i'm addressing your questions, ygrec.