I agree with Omers. The ice queen went off in a tangent on her personal beliefs ~ certainly doesn't sound professional to me! Her coming up with a treatment prediction, expecting it to take years and necessary for you to leave your current T & immediately sharing her personal beliefs is just WRONG!!

Dear Shezbut,

Thanks for being so nice to me...

I called her the 'ice queen' because she grilled me for an hour and like never smiled and scared me. (I know this wasn't very nice) But she is the DBT and BPD expert. 1. Isn't she supposed to tell me what to do and make the recommendation in terms of DBT treatment and what it should entail?
2. And if she decided from my answers and her expertise that I had this nasty disease and no one else would tell me, isn't she supposed to be the one to tell me and tell me what it means?

I was sent to her for approval for DBT training and for her to decide what class and if it would help me. So she decided. I need the whole dang ball of wax and that any interference from an outside therapist would be detrimental and counter-productive to that treatment.

I guess I don't think I understand.... I went to her for her expert opinion, wasn't she supposed to give it? If she lied to me about what my T said or what they had agreed upon, then that was unequivocally wrong. Not sure about the triangulation thing, but shouldn't T have been able to add the DBT stuff without doing something wrong? So again, what did she or my T do wrong?

But I could have told her where to go... I could have just said it wasn't for me. I could have doubted the veracity of her words. I could have immediately put a call into T and said WTF?? I could have blown her off.. I should have not gotten upset until I talked to my T or gotten better information.

And then I took off like an emotional shotgun and did wrong by my T by thinking so badly of him and comparing him to other bad men in my life.. Doubted everything he said about standing by me. Was so angry at him for sending me to her. So angry for having to answer all those questions like that. So ashamed to get another label.

Even knowing that T doesn't want any of this now, isn't making me feel better, and that is scaring me. Tomorrow I'm supposed to go and see another DBT expert. I hope he's wearing a cup. I just want to be left the hell alone and dig a hole. I don't even want to see my T right now. I just don't know what to think...

Please jump back in and say it again another way so that I do understand .... please?

Thanks,

WB