I worked with a CBT T for a year or so in college... My understanding is that there are a lot of similarities. T was blunt and direct but smiled and laughed a lot. Often we would have tea together during our sessions. I learned A LOT from her and would be in major trouble right now if it weren't for the things I learned from her. She was my primary T at the time so there was no need to change T's or any of that but she knew I was still in touch with 2 former T's and didn't have a problem. She never pushed group on me. She had firm, boundaries that I often wished wouldn't keep me so far away but she was by no means cold. She never TOLD me anything just made suggestions and asked me to think about them. She did suggest a label at one point that I did not feel was accurate... we DISCUSSED it like two GROWN women with out any power over BS. She never once told me she was "an expert" even though you could ask anyone in the state who knew anything and they would say she was the best. She had NOTHING to prove to me... just things that she had learned were helpful to others that I identified as "like me". She offered and let go... they were mine to take, nurture and grow or to let fall to the floor and be blown away in the winds. There was always a warm hello when she opened the door and a warm hug at the door at the end and sometimes a warm cup of tea in between.