What type of relationship should I have with my father? He's a man that I don't know how to trust. The first thing that comes to my mind when I think about my father is his alcoholism and his anger. Many times he's disappointed and hurt me emotionally and physically. Am I supposed to let my guard down and love this man or am I supposed to be resentful and angry with him. There's been times when I've had my hopes high and believing that he's a changed man but he's let me down so many times. I've tried to get to know him as a man but his drunkenness continues to blind him and his judgment and it has hurt me so many times. I don't know how to identify my boundaries with him.