I can very much relate to what Omers has said.

I have tried very hard to not become dependant on my current T and whilst I am not as needy as I used to be, the thought of loosing her is terrifying as I have been through it before and I know it causes me extreme pain and I pretty much live for my sessions.

It is very hard to lessen dependancy, I had to do it after being hurt by a relationship with a support worker who was removed without warning because I was seen as too dependant. The pain of that made me realise that I couldn't rely on others to help me as much.

It has been a massive battle at times of pain to not pick up the phone or to try and make contact between sessions to whoever is supporting me professionally at the time. I am much better at it now, even though it is still very hard and something I struggle with still. I think it can mean sitting with a lot of painful feelings on your own or maybe with family/friends if you can. I often find that it helps me to realise that i'll probably not feel the same way by the next day and give myself permission to make contact if I still feel the need to. Usually by then I feel I can cope and I keep going.

Appart from that I am not sure how to lessen the general feeling of dependancy though, I wish I did.