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Originally Posted by Wysteria
I agree with Omers. The ice queen went off in a tangent on her personal beliefs ~ certainly doesn't sound professional to me!  Her coming up with a treatment prediction, expecting it to take years and necessary for you to leave your current T & immediately sharing her personal beliefs is just WRONG!!
Dear Shezbut,
Thanks for being so nice to me...
I called her the 'ice queen' because she grilled me for an hour and like never smiled and scared me. (I know this wasn't very nice) But she is the DBT and BPD expert. 1. Isn't she supposed to tell me what to do and make the recommendation in terms of DBT treatment and what it should entail?
2. And if she decided from my answers and her expertise that I had this nasty disease and no one else would tell me, isn't she supposed to be the one to tell me and tell me what it means?
I was sent to her for approval for DBT training and for her to decide what class and if it would help me. So she decided. I need the whole dang ball of wax and that any interference from an outside therapist would be detrimental and counter-productive to that treatment.
I guess I don't think I understand.... I went to her for her expert opinion, wasn't she supposed to give it? If she lied to me about what my T said or what they had agreed upon, then that was unequivocally wrong. Not sure about the triangulation thing, but shouldn't T have been able to add the DBT stuff without doing something wrong? So again, what did she or my T do wrong?
But I could have told her where to go... I could have just said it wasn't for me. I could have doubted the veracity of her words. I could have immediately put a call into T and said WTF?? I could have blown her off.. I should have not gotten upset until I talked to my T or gotten better information.
And then I took off like an emotional shotgun and did wrong by my T by thinking so badly of him and comparing him to other bad men in my life.. Doubted everything he said about standing by me. Was so angry at him for sending me to her. So angry for having to answer all those questions like that. So ashamed to get another label.
Even knowing that T doesn't want any of this now, isn't making me feel better, and that is scaring me. Tomorrow I'm supposed to go and see another DBT expert. I hope he's wearing a cup. I just want to be left the hell alone and dig a hole. I don't even want to see my T right now. I just don't know what to think...
Please jump back in and say it again another way so that I do understand .... please?
Thanks,
WB |
DBT, short for dialectical behavioral therapy, was started by Dr. Marsha Linehan specifically for those with Borderline Personality Disorder. (It is also found to be very helpful in treating depression, and eating disorders.)
There are 4 categories in DBT: Core Mindfulness Skills, Emotion Regulation Skills, Interpersonal Effectiveness Sills, and Distress Tolerance Skills.
It is generally expected for most people to go through DBT group therapy twice before they really begin to master the skills, and start feeling a lot better about their lives. They do highly encourage group members to work with a therapist who practices DBT, in order to be most effective.
My T knows DBT, as well as other techniques, and uses variety in T. The trick is that I guess T's that practice DBT can be reached at any time. Most other T's have a much more strict visiting plan, there are on-call T's in emergency situations, but not necessarily your T. Especially not regularly.
Perhaps I'm not the typical case of BPD ~ I avoid seeing the doctor in my weak times. Many cases do self-injure to receive caring attention. Personally, I don't want the attention. I often take doctors with a grain of salt, especially when I'm in self-hate mode. I theorize that they're simply doing their job. Me keeping my life is simply their job. They don't personally care about me, so WTH should I go to them when I'm feeling really down??! (That's my honest perspective.)
Anyway, me going to the DBT group was very helpful. They would have liked me to see a T who practiced DBT as well, but it wasn't a necessity thankfully. I stopped going before I was "all better", so to speak. The group had gotten some new members that were more into BS'ing than seriously discussing techniques to help us through triggers. I became really pissed and stopped going. I did continue to see my T regularly, but it wasn't enough. And since the new year began, my visits became twice/month ~ increasing my stress level.
Adding some new big stressors, along with the self-hate and self-blame I hold in my core, and I am worse than before!
I hope that I've helped explain it better.
