I spent most of my lunch break just now pondering this. And I guess I think it's better to go ahead and say so when that person contacts you again. That's because what really sucks is this: I know with 99% certainty that I'll never hear from this guy again. But 1% thinks that maybe he'll call and say he just had an insanely busy week and couldn't get in touch and do I still want to go out again. That would be so great! But of course that isn't going to happen. And it'd be a tiny bit easier to know for certain that that isn't going to happen so that little hopeful bit of me doesn't hang on waiting to get shot down. I mean, if it's going to be shot down, just get it over with.

I guess the "not quite the right match" is the best way to go. I'll use it, even if people don't do so with me.

I think he was a great guy and suspect that he thinks this is the gentlest way to end it. I think I'd prefer the other method though.

Thanks for the input,
Sidony