To change the rules through a text message seems unprofessional and frankly quite unkind, uncaring for your feelings. I don't know how I would react but I think it would hurt my feelings a great deal...The issues of dependency have always been difficult for me. I spent the majority of my life being independent not relying on anyone but myself for getting my needs met until I met my therapist. It has been pointed out by my therapist that being dependent on others is part of human nature and it's OK to need other people get our needs met. For me it has taken me a long time to trust her but I trust her now and I feel cared for by her. She is very nurturing and sometimes I cannot get enough of her. She is the kind of therapist who goes the "extra mile" for clients. It is not unusual for me to talk with her on her day off if I am struggling. I feel guilty "bothering" her but she always assures me I am not ever bothering her. She has been a therapist for 46 years and she has been mine for 20 years. So yeah maybe I am dependent but the relationship with her has made my life so much better in so many ways and it has had a positive effect on my relationship with my husband and sons.