I agree with what most of the others have already said that maybe he is on a dry drunk. But maybe he is just going through a big change and is confused too. When I got sober, the first year was hell. My whole world got turned upside down. I could not handle the littlest of problems. I lashed out at others because I did not know what else to do. I wish I could give you some advice but I don't know what it would be. Maybe tolerance but not at the expense of him abusing you and or the children. It took time for me to learn how to be sober and it was not easy. And it was not easy for the people around me. I hope you can work thru these issues with your husband but I think you'll also have to set some boundaries to get that done.