This is all based on my personal observations and experience, so my opinions, etc. are not meant to be advice...Regarding the wild oat sowing...I sowed a lot of wild oats before I was married the first time and dated a lot of men. I lived a footloose and fancy-free life even after I was married (at age 25). That is to say I partied, traveled around the world, etc. I was faithful but I didn't even entertain the idea of having a baby until I was 33 years old and we were married for 8 years. I have met and worked with women though, who married their sweetheart at 18, 19, 20 and had 2 or 3 kids then felt like they "missed something" and started flirting, then having sexual relationships with male colleagues. I guess maybe this is an "oat sowing" delayed reaction?!

Hypersexuality is one of the symptoms that can occur with BP 1/2 mania/hypomania but insofar as I know it's not a hallmark factor for BP when BP is properly managed with medications, etc. I try not to be judgmental. My understanding of "open marriage" is that it's more an agreed upon and shared philosophy rather than a panacea for hypersexuality. I'm reluctant to make an armchair diagnosis, but if a BP person isn't hypoman/or manic I don't think hypersexuality is a big issue. Maybe something else is going on in addition to BP? Like sex addiction?