My son is 22 y/o and wants to move from the home we share in WV to Mass where he has a few friends. One of his friends told him he could stay with her and her mother until he finds a job/apartment. I understand wanting to leave home and be independent but I don't know how my son will function in a new place. He never graduated high school; his hs gpa is ~1.2 and he failed more classes than he passed. He is bright but has a learning disability as well as ADHD and bipolar. He does not have a GED, no driver's license, never even got his learner's permit.

He is gifted in math and did well in computer assisted drafting and completed 3 of four semesters. I wanted him to finish the program locally which would take one year and gave him telephone numbers and the url about the program but he did not call and does not want to be here long enough to complete the program. There is a program in the city in Mass where he would like to live so I called and asked for a college catalog and gave it to him but he has not pursued that either.

He says he just wants to pack up and leave and look for a job when he gets there. I suggested he contact a couple of the high school teachers that he liked for references but he said they would probably say he had bad attendance (which he did) but he has no other ideas for references. He will have to find someone in Mass to prescribe his meds and he has no idea who that might be.

When we filmed with TLC last year we got a check for $3500 that we put in a joint account. I spent $1100 on property taxes and he has spent ~$2000 on video games and a PS3. I had hoped to buy a used car for him with the money but there isn't much money left. I am still on disability and will not be able to send him any money. I am in a nurse refresher course that may take about six months to complete and when I can return to work I could send him a bit of money but nothing soon.

My son said he would like to get a job here but we are not on the bus line and I am not reliable transportation (there were times I was too tired to drive him to school).

Our house is not at the level of squalor that it was before we filmed with TLC last year but it is getting bad, particularly the kitchen. And the bathroom is bad because I have kittens there and they are learning to use a litter box but there mom did not and we have to put shoes on to even walk to the toilet. All the rugs and towels on the floor will be thrown away they are so bad. I need to relocate the kittens but must clean an area in the living room so I can block off part of the room for them.

Because of the condition of the house my son cannot have friends over. I feel like a bad mom and struggle to do better. I will worry every day if he is okay if he leaves but I know I can't keep him here.

Any words of wisdom?