Wow. My mum & bro do in fact think I'm stupid, but they are projecting. I'm the one with the high IQ, the good grades, the ability to get a job wherever, to make friends, to go on stage, to learn languages, to make things, to travel on my own, to do something besides engage my addiction. At least I was that person until they beat me down, I don't know how much of her is left.

My point WAS, someone looked at us like we were stupid every day of our lives while we were growing up. That will put a different face on you than if they looked at you like you were smart and beautiful, no matter what's REALLY on the inside OR outside. My T also says I treat him as if he were my mother and not himself. For having been there for only 45 minutes 7 years ago, she certainly shows up in the room a lot!

I know when I overreact to people, it's because they are doing something that triggers me. I will say it that way now, because it's not that they "remind" me of her, they are triggering something that needs healing in me, a negative introject (mum's internalized voice - are you stupid? don't you have any common sense? not if you never talk to me, mom) that needs dealing with.