I know how you feel. I fled my abusive husband with only a small suitcase and a small box of photos of my kids in Nov 2009. I spent 6 weeks in a woman's shelter, and Dec 22, 2009 I got my apartment. 3 days before Christmas and me with no furniture, etc. For a long time I was afraid to go outside. I cut all my hair off and got a different coloured winter coat and always wore a toque when walking. Every time I saw a mini van I would cringe. I got some quality help from the Domestic Violence Outreach Program here and they helped me get a peace bond.

About a year ago my doctor (GP) told me that my ex had left town and that he (the doctor) had shipped my ex's medical records to Edmonton, so I could breathe easier. I still have agoraphobia, though, which I never had before.

I had no kids with me this time but in 1981 I spent 6 weeks in a women's shelter with a baby and a two year old. I know how hard it is.

I'm glad you didn't answer the phone, it would have been a big trigger.

Do you have anyone safe that could go get the photo albums for you? Photo albums are gold. My ex threw all my photo albums away.