I suggested to my son that he contact some of his teachers and ask if they would give references but he went on a rant about how bad the school system was and how teachers are leaving and on and on. I try to help him prepare but he doesn't listen to me. We have a meeting scheduled next week for family therapy. My son didn't plan his sleep schedule around our last appt and then said he was too tired to go so I went by myself and got to tell the therapist about some of my son's problems that he was not aware of. I am hoping that my son will be more open to suggestions from the therapist than he is from me.

I want my son to be self reliant but sometimes I don't think he does a good job taking care of himself. For example we set up the joint checking acct and when I log in I can see both my acct and our joint acct and I mentioned to him how little money he had left after buying nearly $2000 of games this year. He said he was unable to log in because he forgot his password/ID. The logical thing to do would have been to ask for help from the bank to reset his password but he didn't ask for help for whatever reason.

I know you have to let kids go at some point and let them make their own mistakes. I dropped out of college because I had no direction and worked at McDonalds for several years and that was my wakeup call that I wanted a career that used my brain, not stay at McDonalds forever. It frustrates me that if my son would just finish the CAD program he could get an entry level job making $12 per hour but he doesn't care.

What is a mom to do?