You have just grown and changed so much in the past short while! It is wonderful to see. I wish there was something like the army, only not so DRASTIC!, that could be a sanctuary, a place of growth for young people today. Or uni, except that it is so expensive and alcohol is a required course, not an elective. I hate to see you take on all the responsibilities of adulthood just to get some peace. Is there no way to negotiate a separate space at home? Then it would just be about setting boundaries with "former" mates. Because really, work can be hell. If you don't have your issues with your family worked out, they will follow you to your job.