Leed and PBJandPICKLES -

First and foremost, thank you for replying to my post. It really means a lot to me that you took the time and you both are truly insightful and very helpful.

I did actually turn it around for him and he said "if that's what you feel you need to do..." meaning if I was the one with an overstepping coworker it would be my choice if I let things go too far. However, this was a year ago when I initially questioned him about the coworker, and several months before my depression recovery began. If I asked him that question now I think I would get a different answer.

I am in therapy. Great T. I do have deeper insecurities - grew up with little confidence and self esteem and developed an unhealthy need for acceptance and affirmations. It is very hard sometimes to recognize the "deeply embedded fears" when they rear their ugly head. My T has helped me to recognize them and cope.

And yes, truer words were never spoken (written in this case!) - Forget the stupid woman all together. Trust your husband - that's really all you can do. Cuz you can't stop anyone from doing anything and without trust you have nothing anyway.

Thank you both so much!