My mom always says her DIL will "get hers" when SHE is treated by grandson's eventual wife the way mom is being treated by DIL. (Yeah, if grandson ever unties the apron strings!) Anyway, it's all about the grandkids now; I put up with heck to see said sad nephew, and I'm sure his parents feel the same way about me! I would just cook something not too spattery for dinners next time you visit (I've scrubbed down mom's walls, if DIL doesn't cook much, she might be taking to heart that carryout commercial about how to keep your kitchen clean!); also while you're there, cook up and freeze buckets of grandma's chicken soup - the way to kiddies' hearts is still always thru their stomachs. You and your husband were MORE than generous with the wedding; maybe it's always been about the dad (or her parents) more than his little girl, though, and that IS kind of sad. She really wasn't taught (shown) warmth? so how can she share it freely now?