Thank you gma and farmergirl.... a lot to think about... I don't want to be unfair to my guy either. Yes I am being intense. It is because I like him so much (and trust!!!!!! I definitely trust him enough to share this stuff with him, and I try to trust his answers.... I think...). If it doesn't feel positive to him, to get a lot of affection and compliments and have a partner who is into that stuff... maybe we are not compatable. I will keep trying to give him space though (and... hopefully.. encourage him to chime in, at some point, about what he actually personally wants!) because so far this relationship is worth it!!!!!

Thanks again!!!!!!!!!