Where were his short receptors then? Now he's the victim? I know relationships are "complicated", but - when all else fails, go by what you see on TV! On this past Sunday's episode of Doc Martin, while Doc was fixing a pig's butt, the pig's owner asked him, Can you make your fiancee happy? Doc thought the important question for a happy marriage was, did she make HIM happy. I kinda like this way of looking at things, instead of, he doesn't hurt me TOO bad, or yeah, I can STAND it, which is where I usually am.