So, if they recommended that you couldn't read romance novels, you'd have to stop? Or that going out to coffee with friends and chatting about therapy, you'd need to desist? Or getting support and uplift from your mother, you'd have to quit talking to her?

I'm sorry, but this seems so insane to me. That having access to your T with whom you feel support and with whom you feel close is 'verboten'. I'd have a hard time trusting such a rigid approach to healing. It seems like such a control tactic. It makes me furious to hear such complete nonsense. These so-called experts can act like nazis when it suits their purposes under the guise of helping you. I see medical doctors pull the same stunts. Power is addicting. They see your need and your vulnerability and take advantage of it. I don't care how useful and effective their methods might be in healing because telling you that you must leave your beloved T is contradictory to their message. Absolute insanity, in my opinion.

My mother thought it wasn't right that my daughter was so attached to her beloved teddy bear. So, in her 'wisdom', she hid it and told my daughter it was lost. My daughter suffered immensely for weeks but she was 'healed' of her attachment to teddy bear. 20 years later my mother returned to her her teddy bear. Was the pain in losing that comfort she got from it worth the so-called 'healing'? I think not. It was cruel. And so, I also believe it's cruel to demand that you leave your T for the healing you will receive from the DBT.

Thankfully they made a compromise but it still doesn't take away the sting of their initial insistence.