I kind of get both sides because most counselors, will tell you those things hoping that you might try one of those things. No counselor wants to loose a patient to depression. You may be very depressed but he can't be with you all the time. So that means he unable to work threw the deeper problems with you. Are issues we have take time to get over. So he's not going to beable to flick a switch, to make you realize that you are worthy of more then you can a imagine. He wants you to fight because he can't fight for you.
The way you heard him say it, seemed alittle hard but maybe he thought that stuff love with help. I do think he could of said it in a different way. I hope you realize that your worth more then you can imagine. I hope that you realize that your kids need you and love you. I hope you see the light out the tunnel and take it. Please take care!!!