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Old Sep 29, 2011, 02:31 PM
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Originally Posted by stormyangels View Post
They are also supposed to point out unhealthy behaviors and make you aware of it. T getting upset is not a bad thing, nor does it need to be seen as a negative issue. T is supposed to be pseudo-transparent when clients engage in an unhealthy relationship pattern. Saying "you push my buttons" is hardly counter transference or lack of patience in my book. It's an opportunity to express feelings in an appropriate way. Now, if T went off screaming at you, that's another story. But simply pointing out a poor interaction is part of T's job...

Perhaps I misunderstood the phrase "push my buttons" which sounds more personal to me than "perhaps this is a poor way to interact with those you care about".

But I like them to be more detached and impervious. I find it comforting when they are impersonal (I realize not everyone does).
Thanks for this!
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