Sometimes you just have to go out in the world for a wake up call. I know I had to fall down a few times before I could make better choices and take better care of myself. Years ago when my bf finished high school and left for California, he regrets his descision sometimes to forgo college all those years ago, and he has struggled some, but now going on 30 he is considering going to technical school once I get my bacholers and he has a stable job, he regrets not going to college, but he believes that if he had never left home like he did he wouldn't be the person he was or ever have learned what he wanted or needed to do for himself. I can only imagine how hard this is for you Yoda, but maybe letting him try out on his own will give him the wake up call he needs and give him the direction he is lacking. I am keeping you and your son in my thoughts.