Thanks for all the replies!

My mom has been selfish for as long as I can remember but it's gotten worse the past few years- she doesn't even hear me any longer. I'll call her and she'll vomit all her problems on to me, then say well I don't have anything else to say so I'm going to go now. So much for me thinking I would have a turn to speak

My friend has selfish tendencies also, but I expected more from her I guess, because for the past 9 months I've helped her through her husband leaving her for another woman and I was a shoulder to cry on MANY, MANY times. Also I called her regularly to make sure she was okay.... Do you think she calls me since I got out of the hospital 2 weeks ago? NO, not one time. Oh and didn't call when I was in the hospital either!

Having a crisis or health problem really lets ya know who is there for you and who isn't!

Thanks for listening.