[quote=skysblue;2043267]So, if they recommended that you couldn't read romance novels, you'd have to stop? Or that going out to coffee with friends and chatting about therapy, you'd need to desist? Or getting support and uplift from your mother, you'd have to quit talking to her?

I'm sorry, but this seems so insane to me. That having access to your T with whom you feel support and with whom you feel close is 'verboten'. I'd have a hard time trusting such a rigid approach to healing. It seems like such a control tactic. It makes me furious to hear such complete nonsense.

Hey Skysblue,

I was really confused by this too. Talked to my T today and kind of asked what if any stipulations were put on my continuing therapy with him and why. He said the big deal was "splitting" of therapists where one T would say one thing and the DBT T would say another and then I would be left feeling lost and confused. (GEE I have no idea how THAT feels lately!!!) Well, I was working with he and another therapist out in California and we were always able to work out any differences like that because I would simply ASK!!! HELLO!! And my T has studied DBT and will be very careful to support the process.

I think your mom sucked for taking the Teddy Bear away...Kids naturally grow out of these things and you're right, if they need them, there's usually a reason behind it. I think it's better to find out WHY the child feels the need for the extra security and protection and help to provide it as a mother in other ways than taking something away. Sorry. Yeah, I remember vividly the day my baby blanket "got eaten" by the washing machine. It got real ugly.

I really appreciate all your thoughts. Yeah the "sting" is lingering and the fact that I still will have to work with the lady DBT therapist will be a little hard for a while. And the wedge that was driven into my relationship with my T is making me feel a lot of bad feelings. He's done a lot to dispel them, but I need to do my part to set it right too.

Hugs!!

WB