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Old Sep 30, 2011, 09:03 AM
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Originally Posted by treehouse View Post
I think after that I was disappointed in myself for not doing a better job, and I was scared that T was disappointed in me.

I think I was trying to act more okay than I felt.

In the message, he did give me the reassurance I asked for in session.
So you are afraid of not being the good girl with T? And you needed his reassurance that you were still a good girl even though you couldn't perform perfectly?

Maybe this is what T is trying to change? Maybe he is seeing how you rely too much on him reassuring you that you are still a good girl and that you are loved?

If you become aware of this it can lose its power and you can validate yourself from inside of yourself instead?
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