Maybe there is a problem with the term self-acceptance.

For example, i accept that human nature is fallen and that people will , IDK, push in front of you in traffic instead of letting you go - so in a sense i accept it - but I don't like it - so in a sense I do not accept it.

If I have a physical limitation of some kind, I accept it - there it is - but I suppose it's natural to wish it wasn't so; that's not "accepting" is it?

If I have a psychological difficulty - something in my past which I did and which has left lasting damage on me - I know it, boy do I know it, and if that is acceptance then i accept it; but do I like myself the person who is like that? No. And there's no self acceptance there.

does that make any sense?