Each case is unique and there are no right or wrong answers on this topic.

My family went through counseling and tried using behavior modification programs when my oldest was diagnosed with ADHD. We chose to put him on Ritalin.

During that time, my youngest also had behavior issues, but the behavior modification ideas didn't work with him. I reached a point where I could no longer handle being physically attacked by my Jekyll/Hyde child. He was only 3 at the time, but I told the doctor that I wasn't leaving the office until he either prescribed something for the child or something for me!

Now, so many years later, my oldest actually has the correct diagnoses of Bipolar and is on the correct medications. I have to say - I wish he had been properly diagnosed 20 years ago. Perhaps his life would be so much better than it is now and maybe I would not be dealing with the emotional aftermath that has become an issue in my own life.

My youngest is no longer on meds. While he was diagnosed with ADHD, ODD and a few other labels, I now think it is more likely that his issues were a result of living in a dysfunctional family. Counseling, doctors, etc will never have all of the answers. Continuing education for doctors is critical and willingness on their part to make referrals to Psychologists and Psychologists for thorough testing could help reduce the number of incorrect diagnoses.

I regret that we put the youngest on Ritalin. I think it stunted his physical growth. He will never be 6 feet tall like the pediatrician had predicted. But he has become a sweet, kind and caring young man and is moving forward to a happy future.