I have two kids.
My husband has anxiety and isn't taking his anti anxiety meds anymore. That makes him more edgy and I'm a type B personality, he's a type A personality.
Where the anxiety comes in is he gets freaked out about things that wouldn't normally bother me or many people who are 'even keel'.

We got in an argument tonight about a situation at a store. We were out shopping with the kids and he made some sarcastic comment to me and I in turn said that I he needs to cut out the sarcasim. He then started raising his voice in the store and I calmly told him to calm his voice down. That of course only got him even more angry/agitated and he said: "don't start with me!". I then knew that things were going nowhere fast and I told him that I wasn't going to talk about it in the store and that I was going to finish the shopping and walked away from him with the grocery cart. - (mind you there was another couple near by starring at us and I was beyond embarrased at his behaviour and the fact that I am married to someone who can act rude and that I'm allowing myself to be treated that way by engaging in a response to his negative behaviour by getting sucked into his verbal jousting).

We talked about it later in the day and while I felt heard our discussions always end with him telling me all that was bothering him and it's his 'last word'. I feel like a child in the conversation and he asks me is there anything else you want to talk about? - I say no and then he leaves. I of course am angry because I feel like he's not respecting me or he has the power in the relationship or in that moment. Am I being childish? I did have a T and she did say it sounded like we had a parent child relationship at times and that I need to disengage when he talks disrespectfully to me (during our discussion today I told him he needed to talk in a calmer tone and not use any swearing etc.... I don't allow my children to talk to me that way and I don't accept it from anyone. I Know I should have just told him when he's ready to talk calmly then I'm available and then leave the room). I feel like when it comes to conflict I give him the power.

Is any of this making sense?

I did ask him many, many, many, many, times over about marriage counseling and he refuses. As an fyi he never went to a psychiatrist or psychologist for the anxiety. He got the script from his primary care dr...

Any thoughts??????