Rainbow,
I cannot assume what buttons your T was referring to, but I can imagine that after sharing everything she has shared with you, it just does not seem like enough for you. Your T sounds very patient. She also shares quite a bit with you, but it is never enough. You want more info and you need a lot of reassurance. Making a list of everything she has shared with you--why did you do that? Can you let go of control and allow this relationship to unfold naturally? Trying to pull more and more information from her seems forced and uncomfortable, more like an obsession rather than a real desire to get to know somebody. With the way things are online these days, everybody looks up everybody. It's the way it is. So what? When you are with somebody, respecting boundaries and requests is important. That's the giving you need to do in this relationship. Just because a therapist is trained to pay attention and focus on you does not mean you should not do some giving of your own. That giving is accepting what your T is willing to share and not always pushing for more. It is accepting the limits and boundary she has about physical contact and not pushing for more. It is at times accepting the responses your T gives you and waiting until you see her again to discuss it, not having to have immediate answers over the phone or email, but being willing to sit with a little of your own discomfort until you see her again---some of that discomfort is good as it will help you grow.

I hope you are letting these responses in and not pushing them away, which I know is a temptation.