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Originally Posted by SophiaG
I hope the child's nana and papa are stable and good role models. Having bipolar disorder isn't the end of the world, though I do know a friend who was diagnosed with it and really has borderline personality disorder, so you might want to consider that. It sounds like you went through a lot and your family is quite an unconventional one. Unconventional being an understatement, more like dysfunctional.
So, your mother suffers from depression.
your father married your grandmother, and his anti social behaviors landed him in jail.
your grandfather was abusive.
Your current boyfriend has several disorders (ptsd, paranoia, rage, bipolar disorder - it actually sounds like he might turn out to be abusive, be careful with this one.)
So where is the stability in all of this? That's what I want to know. Where are you going to find that stability to model after and become more stable? Does your child have a model of stability to model herself after?
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Despite my ex's self-destructive behavior , her nana and pop are really stable and sympathetic people. They are good parents imo. They have talked with me about mydaughter being diagnosed and are coming to terms with what she needs and how to deal with her feelings. I feel they can provide a lot more stability than I can on most days.
LOL yeah, "dysfunctional" is the correct word for my family i think. Although I"m seeing more and more that no one's family is perfect. I still deal with feelings of resentment and bitterness towards some members. I have made peace with most, but i know that a lot of what happened has left a mark on me.
The problem with my current husband is that is was in the army for 6 years, was an army ranger. And he was good at it. Despite the very abusive home he grew up in i think the army is what finally broke him. He didn't realize how damaged he was and fought a lot so when he was discharged it was dishonorable without a diagnosis.
He only recently was diagnosed with all of these things and although i do feel he could control his temper a little better at times I am sympathetic to these facts.
I didn't realize how hard it would be to actually be married to someone with mental disorders as well. We do tend to be a strong shoulder for one another , but when we are both having a bad day it can be disastrous.
The problem atm is that he hasn't been on disability long enough to get health insurance and we can't afford it on our income. So while i'm gettnig help he's trying to deal with his on his own. So it's a daily struggle to not let the sticks of dynamite rub together. :/
My daughter is by far the best part of my life i can honestly say. Although my heart breaks for her to have to go through the things i did with BP, she seems to be resilient, always cracking a joke and sharing her feelings. I have hope for her and try my best to keep in contact with her.
I hope that answers some of your questions and thanks for reading through all of my garble lol.