I think we need to look at, why California? Why did his father think he needed a psychiatrist? What was he depressed about? What would the big cities of California offer him, away from his girlfriend and family, that he is not finding in this small town? What does "New Age" mean 30 years after the expression was popular? Better for him to do this now, so you can both get on with your lives separately. I really think you and your young man have vastly different goals and values.