Helped me to read most everything I could find on adult children of alcoholics, 12 step meetings I agree can be helpful too.

I would never tell you how you "should" feel. Your feelings are your own, you have the right to your feelings, your feelings are okay.

Reading, lots of good therapy, and keeping a journal works for me, to sort out my emotions and figure out boundaries.

I've had to stay away from my alcoholic father. At least for now, I do much better that way.