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Originally Posted by farmergirl
Granite, she's not playing a game with you. She's not trying to make you beg. Why are you unable to ask for such a simple thing? Is it that you are afraid the answer will be no, she doesn't have an available time that will work for you? True, that might be the case, but unless you specifically ask her about it so you can have that conversation with her, you will never know. This is just called being assertive. And yes, it is a very important skill that T's obviously want us to learn. Don't make this into some kind of battle of the wills. Ask for what you need. Take care of your needs.
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i have just never been able to even open my mouth to ask for what i need.i know this is hard to believe but it is true.i will just deal with whatever things are.i don't have to like it at all but i cant seem to be smart enough to just open my mouth and say anything or ask for anything.I'm not turning it into a battle in fact i am sure my T has no idea how strongly i feel about this.the battle is only within myself as it always is.i don't think i could ever risk letting my T know any of it.yes i am scared of her reaction.it isn't even the no that i am afraid of.it is letting her know that i even have any feelings about not seeing her or that i even care one way or another. god i feel if she knew that i cared even a little she would be completely repulsed by it or just think it is so absurd that she would just laugh and that would crush me.i would rather say nothing.