thanks karebear
i dont think my t is the kind of t that wants to be dealing with filling needs i think she is more into me filling myown needs but that just may be the way i see her at this point.
believe me i would always rather go without than to open up and ask for something.i have been this way all my life and am good at just dealing with what may be given.i was tought that well.just accept what you have been given and be greatfull for that or next time nothingi couldnt handle this responce from her at all .not that she would have this responce but i think i would see any answer she had as doing or saying this so no way wont ever ask for anything.